It’s hard to believe it’s that time again. Where on earth has the year gone? I know we all say it every single year and that’s because each one becomes a smaller percentage of your life, so it totally makes sense that it gets faster and faster. We are all feeling the same thing.
This time of year can bring up a number or issues for a lot of people, especially when it comes to seeing those we don’t spend a lot of time with but that the season brings together.
Traditionally, the season is about family and friends and it’s not always pleasant for everyone. Especially if there is someone in your life that you don’t see eye to eye with.
If you are anything like me, you’re the type of person that’s prepared to go the extra mile to have true and authentic relationships in your life, so it can be very frustrating when someone won’t meet you half way. Sometimes you just have to accept that things may never be positive with that person and there’s nothing you can do about that. As we all know, it takes two to tango and if one is not prepared to put their dancing shoes on, you can’t make them join you on the dance floor.
So what can you do to make the situation pleasant for everyone?
For me, it’s about rising above it and accepting it for what it is. If you take the path of least resistance, then you not only make it a better experience for everyone else, you make it easier and more pleasant for yourself as well. Focus on all of the positives that you are surrounded by and feel gratitude for all of the wonderful people in your life. Try not to focus too much on the difficult situations or people. If you do, you are only giving your power away.
There are also exercises that you can do before you walk in to a room with that person (or people) as well. Exercises that protect your space from being invaded and affected by their energy. Take a minute to breathe and imagine the person is in front of you, while pushing your arms out, you can say to yourself “You are not allowed in my space”. Keep the area around you clear and you will be able to protect your own energy and positive vibes and maintain your calm and serenity.
What you need to know is that it’s okay for you to put a protection barrier up around you. In fact, it’s healthy and totally necessary to avoid the repetition of patterns that clearly have not worked in the past. There is no point beating your head against a wall and trying to make things work if the other person simply won’t come to the party.
It’s also okay for you to avoid that person. The best thing about get togethers is that there are usually lots of other people that you can focus your time and energy on, so you don’t have to make inauthentic small talk with those that you don’t get along with. Sure, you should still be pleasant, but you don’t have to engage in conversation with someone that has caused you stress or pain. It’s okay to say ‘no’ to allowing that person in to your life if they don’t deserve to be there.
Healthy boundaries are exactly that, healthy. They are a necessary part of maintaining our own mental health. If you have someone in your life that you find very difficult to be around for whatever reason, it is essential for you to put your bubble of protection around you if you can’t avoid them. It is a sign of self respect.
Although it can be challenging, it doesn’t have to be unpleasant. With a bit of mental preparation and self talk, you can get through the festive season and deal with difficult people in a positive way. And remember, those that challenge us, teach us, so embrace the lesson that they are there to teach you.
Love & Light Always,