Happy New Year Lovelies!
I hope 2017 has started well for you and you’re being gentle with yourself after the crazy rollercoaster ride that 2016 was for most of us. I certainly am, even though the lessons for this year are already coming at me thick and fast. But I guess that’s what happens when you make self improvement a priority.
One of those lessons for me is about letting go of situations totally out of my control and not allowing the actions of others to affect my energy or feelings. It’s not something I’ve quite mastered yet but I am sure as hell working on it. Hard. In fact, not a day goes by that I don’t do some kind of research to try and figure out how best to deal with my self in relation to accepting what ‘is’ and understanding that many situations we encounter in life may never be resolved. They are what they are and that has to be ok or it will drive you mad.
Some people are really good at this. They can cop an arrow to their bubble of protection without so much as the slightest piercing; turn around from the attack; pivot on the shiny floor underneath them and skip away like nothing ever happened. I envy those people and strive to be just like them one day. Sooner rather than later I hope.
And then there’s those like me. I’m a super sensitive and empathetic creature, so when I know someone is choosing to hurt me on purpose, I feel it and as much as I’d like to shake it off like Taylor Swift, it takes a little time for me to process and work through in order to feel centred again. As I get older, this stage is taking less time with each hit but it’s still something I go through before bouncing back.
We are constantly told ‘don’t give your power away’; ‘what you give energy to will remain’ and statements like this that tell us we should not be letting outside entities shake our core but we are all human having a human experience and from what I can tell, most people are affected by the words and actions of others. We just get better at dealing with it over time.
Humans can be volatile creatures. Many whom we come in to contact with and whom we may have close (or not so close) relationships with can be stuck in a place they never move out of and this leads them to behave in ways that are hurtful to others. I’m sure we’ve all had our share of being on the receiving end of toxic behaviour and the hardest hitting are when you know the person is doing it with intent. But no matter what, at the end of the day, we can’t control how people choose to treat us. All we can control is how we choose to respond.
I’m sure you’ve heard the term ‘hurt people hurt people’. If you remind yourself of this when these situations arise, it makes them a lot easier to deal with.
Forgiveness is also very important; especially when you’ve never even received an apology. It is a gift we give to ourselves more than anything else and it doesn’t have to mean you forget. These two dudes express it so eloquently that I had to include this rather than try to express it myself:
It’s a powerful video isn’t it?
It’s not easy to let things go but we simply must for our own peace of mind. Focus on forgiveness; feel whatever it is you need to feel; talk it out and then let it go (like a fart).
Love & Light Always,