All my life I’ve heard the term “You get what you give”. I’m sure we all have. The thing is though, until the other night, I have always thought the saying was in reference to what we give out or purely about what we give to others. It had always been my belief that’s what it meant. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now some might say this makes me a slow learner but on the night in question, I was reflecting on how great things had been for me lately, which was in line with how much better I had been treating myself. Suddenly it hit me. “You get what you give” also pertains to what you give to your self. Lightbulb moment!
I’m not talking about buying yourself gifts or acting in a selfish manner to get what you want out of life, that’s not what I mean at all. What I am trying to say is the more you treat yourself with genuine respect, love and care, the more life seems to have a way of treating you in the same manner. The ripple effect is extraordinary once you open yourself up to living your life in a parallel universe. One in which you behave in a way that is a gift to yourself.
It’s not always easy to maintain this way of being, particularly if it’s vastly different to how you’ve treated yourself in the past. Life has a way of testing you when things are going fabulously. Just when you think things are perfect, BOOM! There it is. Something to shake your soul to ensure the groundwork you’ve been putting in is based on a foundation of truth and strength. Life’s funny like that.
To be good to yourself takes work. Consistent, self aware, no bullshit, hard work. It starts with a decision and from that point on, there’s no denying how much effort is required to bring about real, positive, life changing results. But it does get easier. And then, after a while, it becomes second nature. Well almost. You still need to stay ‘with’ yourself as much as you can.
Looking back on the things I’ve needed to change over the years, I can totally see how I’ve gotten what I’ve given to myself. My life was a reflection of what was going on in my head and the self sabotaging patterns I manifested simply validated what I believed about myself. Instead of giving myself the love I deserved, I gave myself nothing but grief every step of the way and in return, my life gave me grief.
That’s all changed now. It has taken a long time and a great deal of patience with myself to get me here but I’m in a very different place now and it feels amazing.
It’s funny isn’t it. We’re always so great at giving others advice but when it comes to ourselves, we can be so judgey wudgey and downright awful. It doesn’t make any sense and it’s time to stop. It’s not our place to judge others and it’s not our place to judge ourselves. It’s our job to show ourselves (and others) as much love, patience, kindness and nourishment as we can. Give yourself everything you would want for your favourite person in the universe and you’ll find that life surprises you in kind. Its quite incredible to observe!
A lot of it comes down to letting go and trusting in the order of things. It’s a lot easier said than done but once you do, there’s no going back.
It’s important to give to others but make sure you’re giving to yourself first. Then you’ll have a lot more to give.
Wishing you magic every day.
Until next time.
Love & Light Always,