Something, or should I say someone incredible happened this week.
So many people have been talking about her; loads have jumped on board and mimicked her page (but they’re all fakers because the real one is gone); I’ve seen more blog posts about this young lady than I’ve seen about anyone in a long time; and it’s been shared more often than I could count. This girl resonated with a LOT of people. Including myself.
Who am I talking about? Essena O’Neil. The amazing 19 year old girl from Queensland who held a mirror up to us all and made us think. I know she made me think.
In case you don’t know what or who I’m talking about – and yay for you if you don’t because that means you haven’t been on social media as much as I have! – Essena was a huge social media star. She made a LOT of money by posting for product endorsements and had a ridiculous amount of fans. Her life looked perfect. What she wore looked perfect. She looked perfect.
But then she called ‘Bullshit’ on it all. She told it how it is. You’ve probably seen the blogs or news stories, so I am not going to bore you with details that you already know and if you haven’t, you can look it up for yourself if you want to know more.
Now I don’t mean to jump on the band wagon. That’s not what this is about. What I want to say is: Thank you!!! Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for sharing your truth and Thank you for giving others permission to share theirs as a result.
Why I am I grateful? Because Essena made me take a really good look at myself. I am 100% guilty of doing what she pulled herself up on, time and time again. I am guilty of spending way too much time on social media. I am guilty of checking if I have ‘likes’ way too often. I am guilty of posting photos that took way too many shots to get right in the subconscious (or semi conscious) hope of receiving validation from people holding on to their instruments of communication and addiction. I am guilty. And this made me think some more.
It made me realise how much we love the truth. If we didn’t, then why has Essena caused such a ripple this week? Why does she have even more fans than she ever did, now that she is telling it like it is?
It’s plain to see that we fall for the fake and the pretend. But why? Is it a visual thing? Or are we subconsciously masochistic and looking for an excuse to feel bad about ourselves by comparing ourselves to others? If that is the case, why are we punishing ourselves? Because we don’t love ourselves enough? I think so.
Why also are we posting so much stuff to gain the approval of others? Why do we care what others think? Why does it matter how many ‘likes’ we get or don’t get ? Aren’t we enough as we are?
As I said before, I have been guilty of it myself. I have wanted people to tell me that I looked great. I have wanted people to think that my life is perfect. But you know what? I have worked really hard at letting this go. I have seen myself disappear into the abyss of what doesn’t matter and I have fought my way back to the surface where I can breathe. Now, what matters to me is how I can help people. What matters to me is how my truth can give you permission to speak and feel yours. What matters to me is that you really love yourself because wherever you go, there you are. That is your truth.
Be honest. Be brave. Be okay with working on how you feel about yourself as a human and being proud of who that person is. You’ve come a long way and your individuality is your power. You don’t need approval from others. You need approval from your self. And that is all.
Love & Light Always,