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Happy New Year Lovelies!  I sincerely hope that it will be a great one for you.

There is something really special about the beginning of a new year.  It brings a whole lot of freshness to your soul.   Three hundred and sixty five new days to make of your life whatever you wish.  I absolutely love the feeling it brings and can’t wait to see what unfolds in 2016.  I’m super excited!

That however is where I stop talking about the new year.  There are enough blog posts out there about it and I never want to become clichéd or do what everybody else is doing.  I like to be different, if not a little surprising.

So what am I going to talk about then?

Visibility and transparency on social media.

Why?  Because it has become such a huge part of many of our lives.  Whether you realise it or not, people can tell a lot about you by what you post.  Even when you are trying to say one thing, another message altogether may clearly come across.   Your audience is likely to see what is really going on, rather than what you are trying to project.  It is subliminal as well as literal.

There are those that tell fibs and are then silly enough to post the truth, forgetting that their ‘friends’ can see.  I have certainly caught out people that have blatantly lied to me and found out things that have been withheld as well.  I’m sure we all have.  I’ve seen people tell fibs to others as well.  They obviously forget their words are seen by a much larger audience than intended.


But that’s not all that I’m talking about.  I’m also talking about the people that so desperately want us to believe  their lives are (picture) perfect.  You know the ones. They post photograph after photograph of carefully posed for and captioned images of what they want you to believe is a flawless life or relationship, when really, they are starving for attention and need their ego to be fed by the hoards because in reality, their life is far from complete and they don’t feel as great about themselves as they’d like you to believe.

It is clear that a lot of people use Facebook as a facade.  There’s nothing wrong with that but what those people must remember is that the message they often send out is not what they intend.  I think that’s why people are so drawn to honest and raw posts.  They are the ones that seem to go viral.  We all love the truth.  There is no question about that.

And then there’s those that display obsession in some form or another.  Obsession will often cause alienation and segregation.  Multi level marketing is an example.  I’ve seen people become so obsessed with it, they have changed their whole lives and lost all of their friends as they seem to live a ‘cult’ like existence.

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To each their own but nobody wants to have something jammed down their throat every single day.  We can all believe whatever we like for whatever reason but there’s no need to continually try and sway the masses in a way that shows no awareness of the response this may manifest.

Another example is the continued, blatant displays of affection to a loved one.  Doing so only shows an unhealthy focus and inherent need to ‘prove’ something to oneself and others.  Those that have the healthiest relationships don’t have any requirement to bandy it about or prove anything to anyone.  They simply ‘are’.

Nobody wants to see the same thing again and again, day after day.  Especially when it is an apparent attempt to make you believe something or get you to jump on a bandwagon.   That sort of behaviour will only result in ‘hide’ing. ‘unfriend’ing or even ‘block’ing.  I’ve done all of the aforesaid for all of the above reasons and I’m sure people have done it to me.  I’ve been known to bore myself with my own posts.  Same old, same old is not want I want to see.

I want to laugh.  I want to connect.  I want to support.  I want to be inspired.  I want to be informed but not in a way that promotes single mindedness.  That is what I want from my social media.

What do you want?

Love & Light Always,

Yvette xxx