Hi Lovelies,

Thank you so much for your patience. It has been a looooooong time between blogs.

Sure. There’s been stuff to write about. I’ve had a heap of things to work through (mercury in retrograde has a lot to answer for!) however, I also know how important it is to look inward when your outer world is chaotic. So, in short, that’s what I’ve been doing. Because that’s ALWAYS where the answers will be found.

A L W A Y S.

Besides, when we are emotionally affected by something, we often blurt things out in a way that we don’t mean. So at times like that, its best to say nothing at all.

I have witnessed short term AND long term unhealthy patterns repeating in my life. And then I’ve watched them come around again. And again. Like groundhog day with no good coming from it. Only frustration, anger, pain and sadness. So what does one do when these things keep re-appearing in your life? Well, you and I both know the ONLY thing you can do is break the pattern yourself.

And that means Change with a capital C.

If you’ve done all you can to work towards a resolution and another party/parties refuse to take the action required, it’s time to stop banging your head against the brick wall. Relationships are a two-way street. No matter how much you want a solution, these things take EQUAL energy and for both parties to truly and authentically want the same outcome. Know when it’s time to take your energy back and direct it to where it can do good for yourself and as a ripple effect, for others.

I won’t bore you with details about it all but I will share what I’ve (FINALLY) learned about the reappearance of drama and negativity in my life.

If you accept unacceptable behaviour, it’s going to keep reappearing.

You can’t just ‘love harder’ and hope a situation will change. It won’t.

If you continue responding in the same way to a situation, its your fault it keeps repeating and you’re just going to keep getting the same shit on a different day. That’s on you.

You can walk away from what isn’t working in your life and the world will keep turning. In fact, you’ll likely find your world starts turning with more ease and flow.

You can love people and at the same time, decide there isn’t room for them or their behaviour in your life. In fact, sometimes the best way to love them is to walk away. Perhaps it will make things easier for them too.

People don’t necessarily have to be toxic people for you to walk away from them. They may only be toxic for YOU for whatever reason. Sometimes energies just clash and that just is.

If stuff keeps getting brushed under the carpet, you’ll find yourself standing on a huge pile of poop. Take your cue to step off.

People, no matter who they are or how long you’ve known them, won’t always see, hear or understand you and that has to be OK. Whatever a person carries is their stuff and sometimes they’re too busy carrying such a huge load that they can’t even see over their pile at you. That has to be OK as well. The right people will ALWAYS see you.

Be real. Are YOU seeing you? Do you allow yourself enough stillness and self reflection? What can YOU do to affect change when it’s desperately needed?

Stop worrying about the ‘supposed to’s and the societal ‘should’s and focus on what (and who) is right for YOU. The more you talk to people, the more you realise there is no such thing as ‘normal’ anyway. We all have things we carry and relationships we find challenging. Embrace them. ESPECIALLY the tricky ones because they are what teach us the most.

ACCEPT you won’t always get the result you want or the answer you need or the explanation you deserve. Life isn’t fair and it doesn’t always give us what we want. But it does give us what we need. And thats more than enough.

Love & Light Always,

Yvette xxx